Hello expectation*

September 5, 2010 written by Tairiq Thompson from Personal experiences

Hmmm ahhmmm!!!! Can I please have your attention PLEASE!!! I have a personal revelation to share, that may or may not help you. Whether this helps you or not is undetermined. So as a disclaimer prior to reading this. Please understand that this is not intended to have the "right" answer. Just another perspective from a different angle of the pillar, if you have an alternate perspective please do voice. Topics obtain further penetration through conversing.

Now with that said. Sitting here reflecting upon things; i received a personal chance to say hello to my expectations. We conversed and I realized that for some reason i'm always falling short of obtaining them in every arena of life. But this here is "cupidlies" . So i shall only share the section of my epiphany pertaining to romantic relationships. Well i surely don't know about anyone else. But i personally am a meticulous, particular, perfectionist and i've utilized these qualities to join with my imagination while molding my expectations into this beautiful goddess.

So high up there with the clouds, birds, and the omnipotent one, lies my my beautiful expectation of "the one". And she lies upon the pedestal so precious and lonely. "Walking toward her is one step to never getting there." This becomes the irrefutable fact as you mature and age, and decide upon settling/ becoming complacent more and more. And as this "one" you was non-verbally but socially promised would show up is never realized. You become discouraged, disappointed, betrayed, and lied to. Until you meet another face value representer and that person at first-look reminds you of someone special, someone seen but never touched, spoken about but never heard, felt but never actualized. In the depth of your subconscious you say "hey you look exactly like that large pedestal incasing I have sitting up there in my subconscious alongside dreams and happiness". Until deeper within your union with this person the waterline of self begins to drop for the two of you. And your sitting there looking at Aphrodite turned medusa. And we banally subject ourselves unconsciously this same tedious, unfulfilling process; providing us our highest of highs and lowest lows. We don't stop and question this detrimental process, by retracting our acquiescence. We don't ponder its inception and where this process derived from. We just continue to seek "the one" via the same process and expect different results. Well i've heard doing the same-thing over, and over and expecting different results is tantamount to clinical insanity. So i reflected upon it, and how about I purge the idea of seeking "the one"?? Everyone seeks "the one" but won't do for self. Maybe its not "the one", maybe just maybe. It's the one who will listen, the one to confide in, the one to trust, the one to build a mutual bond with. Maybe before you ever reach "the one" and climb upon that pedestal. You need a less erroneous depiction of "the one". Could we possibly use some clarity and introspection upon us before we know what we're seeking?? And if yes then maybe we replace "the one" with "the one who...." .

Allow a friendship to form and run its course without aversion and thoughts of "hey this persons great, they should automatically be my significant other." I mean i could be wrong but this is the dilemma i'm personally facing and i think i've reached an epiphany. I and many people turn a friend into a significant other before we know who "the friend" was. Lets take more time knowing our friends and less time creating the optimum couple.
Hello trust and openness, good-bye expectation =)