Are Threesomes To Be Ashamed Of?

Are threesomes to be ashamed of?*

by cupidlies on September 30, 2010 | Comments CL(8) FB(0)

Recently, my boyfriend and I ran into two of his friends, a couple I actually did a threesome with a few years back (though he doesn't know that). Of course, they made no mention of it, but the setting was still awkward.

Needless to say, they want to hang out and possibly go on a vacation together with me and my boyfriend. I’m shitting bricks because that was the past and wanted it to stay there.

So, what to do? What will my boyfriend think of me if he found out?

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lipsealed / December 12, 2010 10:34PM

I actually kind of disagree. i mean i think it really depends on the person. But if you know he's the type to get jealous or weirded out by it. Some things are better left unsaid. I'm sure you have other friends to hang out with you don't need to make it awkward by hanging out with these 2 friends. I mean are you really going to be friends with these people FOREVER? I think you are probably at least expecting that this boyfriend will be long term so think of how he would take it first.

personally if my bf told me he had a threesome and then was hanging out with them again, i would act like it didn't bother me, but it would be STUCK in my mind and probably would make me very uncomfortable.

jaeskiee / October 3, 2010 2:02AM

Tell your friends not to tell him.

onelove / October 1, 2010 11:52AM

Maybe it's different for a girl, but I surely don't care telling others about my threesome adventures and I'll continue to do more. They're fun LOL

cupidlies / September 30, 2010 9:26PM

It's not like I was intentionally keeping it from my boyfriend, it's just something I never shared with anyone. Is that even something you should talk about with others? I just left it in the past as something I did. I really don't know how my boyfriend will react, but it's just so awkward that he knows them.

1YSL / September 30, 2010 12:16PM

Honestly some guys can get turned off at the thought of their girl with someone else they know… soooo if you tell him it might not end well depending on his age and experience. Still its something you have to do if ya’ll are going to be hanging together. Question? Does your boyfriend think of you as a pure pristine angle? Does he know any of the risky things you did before him? And is he into threesome? Will this be a total shock?

MisterMachicote / September 30, 2010 12:06PM

I think you should tell him in the nicest way possible that everyone has a past and you did a few things before meeting him some good some bad but one of them was messing round with Dick & Jane. It was years ago and was something I would have never brought up but now knowing that they are old friends that may be around for the future, I thought you should know and I should be the one to tell you. Hopefully they won’t mention it but if they do you already know.

citysmurf / September 30, 2010 11:56AM

Why not fess up? what's wrong with having a threesome? if he really loves you, he loves you regardless of your past. plus you may have been a different person then, or in a different place in your life. and having a threesome doesn't make you a freak or a hoe or anything like that, it just makes you adventurous and open to experiences.

rockknock / September 30, 2010 11:55AM

I think you should be straight up with your partner because when it eventually come out and it will he will feel deceived. If its something that happened in the past and you've moved on than there should not be an issue discussing it.