I'm So Confused And Don't Know What To Do.

I'm so confused and don't know what to do.*

by cupidlies on August 4, 2010 | Comments CL(6) FB(0)

Over 20 years ago, I had my first lesbian experience. It was great, but throughout the years, I’ve always been more into men. I haven’t seen her since until recently when we found each other online. We’ve been hanging out a lot and she finally told me how much she loved me then and that she initially left because I couldn’t see it. Frankly, I thought I was just a fling since we were so young.

Now, all her feelings are back and she wants to be with me. But I’m happy with my boyfriend of 4 years and I’m not even sure how I feel about being with a girl. When I’m with her, it feels great – I love the long talks and her company. I tell her I just want to be friends, but she keeps on insisting how much she loves me and that I don’t care.

She knows I have a boyfriend, but now she wants to give us a try with no ties (whatever that means) to see how things go. I really don’t know what to do because my feelings are all jumbled up. I hate this confused feeling. Please help me decide what to do.

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jaeskiee / August 7, 2010 11:02PM

I would have to agree with @citysmurf... Stay with your bf if you really love him... u wouldn't want to throw your 4 years away for a fling that you thought she was. If she left you then she will leave you again... Put yourself in your bf's shoes... how would you feel if he left you for a guy?

sadeyes / August 5, 2010 1:48PM

1. i want to thank you guys!.. true about your coments.

1YSL / August 5, 2010 10:05AM

Stay with your boyfriend.
It doesn’t sound like your attracted to this girl or like your even a lesbian and (try with no strings) means she wants the opportunity to lick ya box, turn you out and make you her's. But any who I think you knew that.
Bottom line don’t let that happen because you would be cheating on your boyfriend that you've been committed to for the last 4 years. Think about how he'd feel if he ever found out.

citysmurf / August 4, 2010 11:49PM

LOL

onelove / August 4, 2010 1:33PM

@citysmurf - i hate you. i hate you because you said everything i was going to say LOL

citysmurf / August 4, 2010 12:19PM

I think you've already said it yourself, you're happy with your long time boyfriend. i don't think you're confused about your own feelings, you're just wrapped up in hers. if she loves you, it doesn't mean you have to love her back or feel even remotely the same as she does. plus again, you're already in a committed relationship, and you've told her straight up that you just want to be friends. if she can't respect that, then maybe you should re-evaluate her being a part of your life. and does your boyfriend know all of this? be fair to him, and don't ruin a good thing because you're wondering if the grass is greener on the other side 20 years later.