She's Moving. Should I Follow?

She's moving. Should I follow?*

by cupidlies on February 19, 2010 | Comments CL(9) FB(0)

I've been with my girl for 3 years & now she's relocating to run her own business. Sure, I can follow, but all my friends and family are here. I feel like either way, I lose. Can I really be in a long distance relationship? How do I trust someone when they're so far away? It'll just kill me wondering if she has learned to love someone else.

Signed,
Undecided

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cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:28PM

Posted by Monica Montejo via FB Fanpage / January 20, 2010 at 8:57pm

Yap I agree with Darrol! :)

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:28PM

Posted by Darrol Dawkins via FB Fanpage / January 30, 2010 at 7:14pm

hey undecided, im speaking as someone who just had to deal with the pain of long distance. its a good and bad thing.
but i feel that after 3yrs you need to be putting a ring on it. whats the hold up?
you trusted her with everything for three years, thats not gonna go away cause she isnt close to you anymore. but you shouldnt even let it get to that.....move with her!!! your family and friends will always be that: FAMILY & FRIENDS! this woman is all of that and more...your FUTURE! im guessing lol.
if you can relocate as well with no problem i say go for it. even if your delayed with getting to where she is. just do it. after awhile, those nights all alone. no kissing and hugging will take its toll on you lol. the mind is a powerful thing.
this isnt even a real problem dude. just do it----NIKE

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:27PM

Posted by Carlos Gonzalez via FB Fanpage / January 29, 2010 at 1:00pm

Yea I'm going with the last guy!?

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:25PM

Posted by Rolando Reyes Jr via FB Fanpage / January 28, 2010 at 11:28pm

WOW, what a complicated situation you're facing!?!? I can only imagine what's going through your head at this time. But, If I were in your situation, I'll let her go and let her explore what she wants to accomplish. You're very fortunate to have a wonderful girl who has goal(s) and ambition(s) in life. Not many of them out there my friend, not many of them. Remember, she's going away for a good reason, not like she's leaving just to leave, the girl has a dream like many of us do. If it meant for her to relocate to try to make that dream into reality, then you gotta man up and set her free. Doesn't mean you have to break up give up everything that you have - a long distance relationships can be worked out and be as successful as any other relationships (just ask Rodney Prince's sister and her husband - comment above). Everything in life is temporary and all you can do at this time is give your full support in what she wants to do and accomplish. Someday you will both become financially and mentally stable to be together and start a family. But, for now and/or for the meantime, you both need to stay focused on what you have and be very supportive to one another. Everything will work out just fine - just hang in there! I have to admit, It takes a man let go of something as special as your girl. I admire what you're doing! I can tell you're a GREAT guy and love your Cheese with all your heart!

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:24PM

Posted by Lezell YapDiangco via FB Fanpage / January 21, 2010 at 9:08pm

If you really think that you have something good going on with her and truly love her, then go for it. Otherwise, you'll just be asking yourself "what if" all your life. Your family and friends will always be there for you no matter what happens and decisions you make. But finding true love is something special that can be challenging and may require taking chances in life or what others may say "a leap of faith". Then you'll realize that everything will be all worth it at the end because you'll know for yourself whether it works out or not. But at least you tried it. And if it doesn't work out, you learn from the experience and move on. Good luck!

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:23PM

Posted by Kamal Machicote via FB Fanpage / January 20, 2010 at 7:39pm

If you can trust her here then can trust her anywhere, but is that really the problem? Mine would be missing her kiss, touch... then anyones.

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:22PM

Posted by Ray Reyes via FB Fanpage / January 20, 2010 at 2:28pm

i think u should stick to her like glue so she can call mr flinstone and u can make her bed rock... oh my bad, i was just bumpin that song... on the reals tho, if u love ur lady like how i love mine... distance shouldn't control the love u guys have going... since u have an option to leave what u got going here, u should take the risk cuz what if this new place is the best place for u... if u don't like it, it's not like wherever ur at now is gonna say NO! since u left this city, u aint welcome back.. lol.... to me, i'd peep the scenery...

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:21PM

Posted by Rodney Prince via FB Fanpage / January 20, 2010 at 1:23pm

distance is no match for a strong relationship! share the resources to make special time for each other. My sister did it with her now husband for 8 years and it made their relationship as strong as if they saw each other everyday.

cupidlies / February 19, 2010 10:19PM

Posted by Jonilee Perez via FB Fanpage / January 20, 2010 at 10:24pm

I think you should "move with the cheese" to test how strong you both are together anywhere in the world. You will never know how you feel until you actually try it. This way, you wouldn't have to always wonder. Your family and friends will always be there for you, but I don't think they can fulfill your life and heart like she does. Make it a positive thing like the next chapter in your life. Instead of wondering about your trust in her, go with her as if no one else matters. You can always go home if you realize that that life isn't for you....if SHE isn't for you.